When I Am Afraid, I Can Still Have Faith
- Sober AA Member
- Jun 19
- 4 min read
Sometimes, life gets really hard. There are days when I feel afraid. I worry about what might happen tomorrow. I wonder if things will ever get better. I get scared that I will always feel this way. And on some of those days, I feel very far away from God.
It feels like I'm walking through a dark tunnel and I can’t see the light at the end. I can’t hear God’s voice. I feel lost. I wonder, “Why should I keep going? What’s the point?” But deep inside, there’s a small, quiet voice that reminds me: keep going anyway.
And when I listen to that little voice, even if I don’t feel brave, even if I don’t feel close to God, I can take one small step forward. That’s called faith. Faith isn’t about having no fear. Faith means I keep moving even when I’m scared.
The 12 Steps Help Me Find My Way
I’m so grateful for the 12 Steps of recovery. When my mind is full of fear, and my heart feels heavy, the steps give me a way out. They give me something to hold onto when nothing else makes sense.
Here’s how I use them when I’m afraid:
Step 1 reminds me that I don’t have to control everything. I can admit that my life feels unmanageable right now, and that’s okay.
Step 2 helps me remember that a Power greater than me, whom I choose to call God, can help me. Even when I can’t feel Him, I can believe He’s still there.
Step 3 asks me to turn my will and my life over to God’s care. That’s hard when I’m afraid because I want to grab everything and hold it tight. But when I practice this step, I say a simple prayer like, “God, I’m scared. Please help me trust You today.”
Steps 4 through 9 help me clean up the messes inside me and around me. When I’m afraid, sometimes it’s because I haven’t faced the things that are hurting me. Writing them down in Step 4, admitting them in Step 5, and making amends in Steps 8 and 9 brings peace to my heart.
Step 10 keeps me honest every day. If I snap at someone because I’m scared, I can quickly make it right.
Step 11 reminds me to pray and listen, even when I don’t feel like it. It’s in those quiet times, even if I don’t hear an answer, that I find strength.
Step 12 tells me to carry this message to others and to practice these steps in everything I do. And you know what? Helping others is one of the very best ways to feel better when I’m afraid.
Helping Others When I Feel Lost
It might sound strange, but when I feel afraid and far from God, helping someone else can make me feel closer to Him again. It takes me out of my head and my worries. It reminds me that I’m not the only one who struggles.
Sometimes, I’ll call a friend from my recovery group and ask how they’re doing. I’ll listen to their problems instead of thinking about my own. Or I’ll chair a meeting, even if I feel like hiding under a blanket at home. I show up anyway.
I’ll pick up chairs after the meeting or offer to drive someone home. These simple acts of service remind me that I have a purpose. God can still use me, even when I feel broken.
And every time I help someone else, something happens inside me. The fear gets a little quieter. My heart feels a little lighter. It’s like carrying a heavy backpack, and every time I help another person, a little bit of that weight comes off.
It Always Works Out in the End
Here’s the beautiful thing I’ve learned: even when I don’t see how it’s going to work out, it always does. Maybe not in the way I planned. Maybe not on the timeline I wanted. But when I stay in the program, work the steps, go to meetings, do my commitments, and help others — my life slowly starts to heal.
God shows up in ways I don’t expect. A kind word from a friend. A peaceful moment in prayer. A sunset that reminds me the world is still beautiful. A meeting where someone shares exactly what I needed to hear.
The path might be rocky, and sometimes it feels like I’m walking it alone. But I’ve learned I’m never really alone. God is always walking beside me, even when I can’t feel Him. The steps give me a way forward. And the fellowship reminds me that there’s hope, even in the darkest times.
Keep Moving Forward
So, when you feel afraid, like you can’t trust the process, or like God is far away — keep moving forward. Work the steps. Go to your meetings. Do your commitments. Help others. Even when you don’t feel like it. Even when you’re scared.
That’s what faith looks like. Not perfect belief. Not having all the answers. Just showing up, one day at a time.
And one day, you’ll look back and realize that things did work out. Maybe not how you expected, but in a way that made you stronger, wiser, and closer to God.
Keep going. It’s worth it.

You are worth it never forget that you have to want to be loved you gottawanna be free move on stop looking back
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