Bringing Peace, Love, and Healing Into a Difficult Conversation

Difficult conversations are never easy. My first thought when I face one is to avoid it. I might feel my chest tighten or my stomach twist. Old fears rise up, and I want to protect myself. In the past, I often spoke in anger or shut down completely. Neither way brought peace, love, or healing.

Through God, my sponsor, and the 12 Steps, I have learned a better way.

When I know a hard talk is coming, I start by going to God. I tell Him the truth about how I feel. I might say, “God, I am afraid. I don’t know how this will go. Please give me Your words, Your patience, and Your love.” I do not try to pretend I am strong on my own. I lean on His strength. I remember that God’s peace is bigger than my fear.

Next, I talk to my sponsor. My sponsor listens without judgment. They help me see my part in the situation. They remind me of the principles from the 12 Steps that apply. Often, my sponsor will ask, “What is your motive?” This question helps me check my heart. Am I trying to prove I am right? Or am I trying to bring peace and healing? My sponsor also reminds me to pray for the other person before we talk.

Working the Steps gives me tools. Step 10 teaches me to take an honest look at myself. If I have done wrong, I admit it. Step 11 reminds me to seek God’s guidance before acting. Step 12 teaches me to carry a message of love and hope. The Steps help me keep my words and actions in line with God’s will.

When the time comes for the conversation, I pray again. I ask God to be with both of us. I listen more than I talk. I speak calmly and with kindness. If the other person gets upset, I remember to pause and breathe. I don’t have to win the argument. I can keep my focus on peace, love, and healing.

Sometimes the other person is not ready to hear me. That’s okay. I can still leave the conversation knowing I acted in a way that honors God. The 12 Steps teach me that I am only responsible for my side of the street. If I show up with an open heart, I have done my part.

Over time, I have seen how this approach changes things. Difficult talks no longer leave me feeling drained or full of regret. Instead, I walk away with a sense of peace. I know I gave God the lead. I know I sought wise counsel from my sponsor. I know I used the tools of the program.

Bringing peace, love, and healing into a hard conversation is not about having the perfect words. It is about showing up with the right spirit. God gives me that spirit when I ask Him. My sponsor guides me when I feel unsure. The Steps show me the way. Together, they help me turn a scary talk into a chance for growth, understanding, and grace.

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