Al-Anon is a place where you can find help for yourself when someone you love has a drinking problem. It is not a place to move your old obsession onto a new target. You may have spent years watching the alcoholic, worrying about every choice they made, and trying to fix them. When you come to Al-Anon, that same intense focus can easily shift to the people around you. You start watching other members. You look for what is wrong with them. You decide they are not working the p